May 24, 2011
Life is not a plan. It’s a journey.
This is something my mom knows well. So it was fitting that, as we journeyed NYC-bound on the Acela Express, we would soon learn not only people can travel, but things can, too.
You see my mom lives in the belief that life is a God trip; God only knows where you’ll end up. As we zipped up the East Coast toward Manhattan, I helped her set up her blog, aptly named Life is a God Trip to celebrate her philosophy in an online space. Snapping a photo of her, I wanted to capture her joy. But little did I know that that photo would be the key to the camera itself.
We got settled in our hotel room, had a nice meal and retired early as we knew the next day would be long. Up at dawn, we breakfasted, then took a taxi to the harbor for a boat tour of Lower Manhattan. It was then that I realized my beloved camera, the holder of so many memories during my mammoth five-state five-week trip, was gone.
I should have known the camera had its own ideas. It had slipped from my lap and into my bag on the train. Little did I know it was practicing its escape!
Later that day, I half-heartedly asked the hotel security if they had seen the camera. They had not. Saddened, but steeped in my God trip knowledge, I sensed the camera had decided to take its own journey.
And so it had.
Yesterday a woman left a comment on my mom’s blog, explaining she lived in Venezuela and that her mother had found a hot pink camera in a NYC taxi. She scanned the pictures to find a clue as to the owner’s identity. That’s when she came upon my mom’s photo of joy in front of her newly birthed blog. She must have read the URL, then matched her picture to the one on the camera. She was writing to ask for the address so that she may return it on her trip to Florida, where my own God trip in April began.
No, my friends. Life is not a plan. It is indeed a journey, one of joy and grace and miracles.
For this I am forever grateful. Thank you, Alexandra, of Venezuela. Your kindness will live on in all that I do.
May 23, 2011
No other time of the year is quite as remarkable as your birthday. It’s the anniversary of your coming into full being on the planet. If that’s not reason to celebrate!
The best part is when others are joyful and congratulate you for another year as the person you are. And that’s pretty darn special.
The truth is birthdays wouldn’t be possible without a team of people making sure you make it here.
And so to my mom, my dad, my sisters, the doctors and nurses on staff (not to mention the people who made sure the place was clean), I say thank you. Because without you, things wouldn’t quite have worked out as they did.
Life, from beginning to end, is a team effort.
Here’s one for the team. Thank you all for making my birthday (yesterday) a most incredibly special one. I was overwhelemd with the number of people on Facebook alone who took the time to wish me well.
Blessings to you all!
May 19, 2011
A visit to the mobile phone store taught me a lesson or two about what happens when you don’t know the questions to ask.
After purchasing an iPhone, I was told I couldn’t change my two-year contract for another month in order to add the Internet option so I surfed the Internet via my home-based WiFi, with inpunity, or so I thought.
Until I got the bill two months later (I was in the US for one of them). It was then that reality hit. My mobile phone company was charging me for what they thought was data transmitted by their system, which it wasn’t. And when I confronted them, they blamed the Apple store, that mecca of cool, for not telling me.
It’s a classic case of the consumer paying for service providers’ lack of intelligence; or, put bluntly, my not knowing the right questions to ask. As in, “How can I surf without said phone company claiming money for work they had not done?”
You’d think one wouldn’t have to pose such a question, but today, it’s cover your butt at all costs or everyone in the fluorescent-lighted store will stare unblinkingly at you.
The truth is our hand-held devices may offer us a lot of freedom, but they also sacrifice our privacy. The phone company knows whether I’m using their system or not, but because the phone was not set on ‘airplane modus’, they could happily claim I had. And don’t get me started on the whole ‘iPhones-have-GPS-and-therefore-Big-Brother-knows-where-you-are-always” shtick.
Have you, in your work life, wished you’d known the right questions to ask before you started something? It seems to be the lesson of the month for me. It’s not how much you know, but whether you know to ask the right questions before it’s too late.
Or too expensive, for that matter.
PS Here’s a great article to avoid my mistake!
May 18, 2011
Clear email inboxes are like post-partum when you rediscover that you really do have toes! Are you with me on this?
May 18, 2011
It was bound to happen. As you know, I’m a recovering speedaholic and there are days when I fall off the wagon and do something too quickly. In our 24/7 world, we often feel the crush of the rush. It’s as if a little black cloud nestled above our right shoulder is whispering our doom if we don’t hurry up and finish. Hurry up and react. Hurry up, hurry up, hurry up!
But our inner tortoise says, “Hey, you! Slow down and breathe….”
So I sent out a notice on behalf of a client, then got an astonished response from them that I sent it already. It was supposed to go out tomorrow. They had hastily read their e-mail from me confirming the release date and agreed on Wednesday, although they were thinking Thursday. But Thursday to me, who travelled 1,000 miles in the last four weeks, meant last Thursday. And I thought I was late.
Turns out I was a day too early.
In the PR world, that’s heady stuff if you send out an announcement before it’s time. Like grounds for dismissal forever.
And whilst the black cloud to my right was telling me to hurry, my sweet and wise turtle was plodding unnoticed to my left.
But then the air cleared once the client admitted confusion and we all made up. In record time.
Instantaneousness can lead to heartache. That hasty e-mail sent without thought, the fierce text message dashed off without care, the flaming Facebook rant for all eyes to see.
We live in a transparent, harried world. My dear slow, I love you so. If I ever leave you again, you have my permission to give me a nudge.
Slowly, of course!
May 15, 2011
…there’s a way!” That’s what Willow Drinkwater grew up believing. Tasked with a fundraising effort that she thought nearly impossible, she set about to raise funds for a new library. Collect $300,000 in three motnhs? In her sleepy, yet tony town outside Charlottesville, VA?
Not only was she (and her team) able to raise the funds, they also motivated Bill Gates to donate the computers that now grace the roomy 6,000 square foot building.
“It was about intention,” says Willow. “We put up a thermometer and our small town saw what had to be done, then did it. Gordonsville is the little town that could!”
Stretching beyond her perceived limits is something Willow is used to doing. She has the ability to motivate people, which, in turn, motivates her to keep going. Life has thrown many curve balls her way, and she has risen up to meet every challenge…and in most cases, she’s managed to have fun along the way.
Hers is an amazing story of endurance and grace. What better way to end The Daily Stretch than with her story? She’s a role model for many. And you know what else? She’s my mom!
I am one to hug people when I like them. Even my dentist, who recently told me she’s leaving her practice to study general medicine. Doctors are people do, as today’s daily stretch shows us!
Debra Jaliman is a dermatologist who has had a private practice in NYC for 25 years. In addition, she is an assistant professor at a major teaching hospital. So yes, her plate is full, yet she found time to streeeeeeetch. All due to the kindness of one teacher she had forty years ago.
About a year ago, Debra received an email from a high school teacher. They had been out of touch for almost four decades. He wrote that he had saved the short stories Debra had written all those years ago. To this day, he believed they were some of the best stories he had ever read. Being that he’s a creative writing professor at a top university, that meant the world to Debra.
And it got her creative juices flowing.
A week later, she was asked to write a chapter in a book that later won the British Book Award for best popular medical book. Soaring from her creative writing success, she wrote a book entitle Skin Rules (forthcoming January 2012) that she sold in just two weeks (to St. Martin’s Press, my home publisher!) On a roll, she then wrote a series of children’s books and a film treatment that she is now submitting. Thanks to the kindness of her teacher, and her own ability to move beyond her own perceived limits, Debra rediscovered her creative side. As a result, we all get to benefit from her confidence.
Can you imagine if T.S. Eliot had said “I really can’t.” The world would be poorer without him. What if you are the next T.S. Eliot (or Debra Jaliman, for that matter?). Enrich us with your talent. It’s there. Live it!
May 11, 2011
Have you ever wanted to write a book? You’re not alone. Ray Clements has spent the last thirty years balancing his corporate success with his summer love of writing and doing what he calls “tempering capitalism with peace, love and harmony.” In the early 1970s he graduated with a major in Business Administration and a concentration in Philosophy/Religious Studies. Since that day, he had waited patiently for someone else to write the definitive book regarding the dilemma between racing to the bottom line and harmonizing with the world around us. But no one did.
“So I wrote and self published the novel, Zor. I wrote this book to impact peoples’ lives. I am continually amazed at the number of readers who contact me directly, with gratitude, for writing this book. Learning how to write, format, publish, and market a novel is an arduous task, but the positive response to Zor, has been greater than I could ever imagine, and well worth the effort.”
As a former self-published author myself, I understand Ray’s desire to change the world through words any way you can. He stood up and stretched, reaching out to readers who reached back.
There’s nothing like the feeling when a reader says “You made a difference.” It’s the greatest verbal embrace!