Prudence is a virtue. As the world reels from the financial crisis, we would do best to change our spending and saving habits. Save more; spend less. Business can benefit everyone when we do things mindfully. Thinking about the positive impact enterprise can have can motivate us to better our lives, and those of others.

But take heed. Max Ehrmann says:

Exercise caution in your business affairs, for the world is full of trickery.

Identity theft and online scams are just a few modern-day ways people try to pull the wool over your eyes. Mindfulness and awareness can keep us focused on our goals while sharpening our senses toward the ill-of-heart!

Desiderata Days ~ Career

March 30, 2010

I don’t see work/life balance as a truism. The conversation we are really trying to have is not about balance, which implies stasis, but about alignment. Are we in alignment with our truest purpose? Are we engaging in the things that are going to get us there?

Max Ehrmann says:

Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.

I started out as a secretary in the marketing department of a large investment firm so we could have health insurance. Imagine if I had not gone with the times? I may never have shown an interest in public relations and marketing.

Delight in where you are today and know you are the master of your own ship. Be the best you can be in every moment. Learn new things and watch your life unfurl as you take new steps to change with the times.

On Finding the Happy Within

Positive psychology is, if you’ll pardon the pun, a positive step forward, looking at what we are doing right and building on that versus just trying to solve ‘the problem’ or mental illness. As the father of positive psychology, Martin Seligman has done admirable work in the field of the human psyche. The issue I see with ‘happiness research’ is that we are somehow tempted to look outside ourselves for sources of joy. In my own work I encourage people to find ‘flow’ as Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi terms it. That utter state of timelessness uplifts our souls as we nurture that which is good about ourselves.

Is it not oh-so-human to wish for the quick fix? (Or perhaps it is distinctly Western in thinking). I agree we need a path to wisdom, relying on our inner knowing. For we are born with an intrinsic voice. It is a most joyful experience to lend it its song.

As Gretchin Rubin (author of The Happiness Project) and others will tell you, happiness comes from within. How we view our surroundings is a reflection of our inner being. But I needn’t tell you that, Deepak! 🙂
Read the Article at HuffingtonPost

The old saying “If you want to make God laugh, make plans” reveals how things don’t always go as we think they should. It is in our nature to be forward-thinking on some level. Delight in your accomplishments (and those of others!).

Max Ehrmann says:

Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.

As you make plans, remember they merely lay the groundwork for the action steps you will take. Whatever happens is the best possible option. The question is what will you do in response to it?

The key to making yourself miserable is to compare yourself to someone else. What a gift you are to this world! Your singularity makes you YOU.

Max Ehrmann says:

If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter; for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.

TV makeover shows are great when they enhance the real YOU. But when they mold you into someone else, you have merely changed the shell in which your constant spirit resides. Look to spirit to guide you.

The great news is we are all one anyway so as you look into the eyes of another, you will find yourself within that person, too.

Everyone of us has experienced a town cryer or two in our lives. They shout out at the most inopportune moments. While I spoke of tolerance in yesterday’s post, we must also protect ourselves from physical, emotional, psychological and spiritual harm.

Max Ehrmann says:

Avoid loud and aggressive persons, they are vexations to the spirit.

Sometimes the most softly spoken words are heard the loudest. How do you deal with vexatious people?

Desiderata Days ~ Listen

March 26, 2010

A large part of being a writer is listening to, then telling other people’s stories. Everybody has one. It is fascinating to delve into other people’s worlds and take a part of their essence with me on this journey.

Max Ehrmann says:

Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even to the dull and the ignorant, they too have their story.

When we share our truth, we too are revealing our narrative. Exhibit tolerance as people open up their worlds with you. You may just learn a new way of thinking that changes your own.

Did you know your brain has to follow four steps in the same order every time when switching from one task to another? Take a look at this graph. It’s no wonder multitaskers need to defrag at day’s end.

Max Ehrmann says:

As far as possible, without surrender, be on good terms with all persons.

We are not talking about being a people pleaser. Sometimes the kindest thing you can say is ‘no’. When you speak your truth with authenticity and grace, others will follow. They may not want to hear it or agree with you, but life is not about being in ‘yes’ with others as much as it is being in ‘yes’ with yourself.

Many thanks to Paul Boal for this lovely multitasking graph. It illustrates how much energy you save when you go slow.  Fast is not better. It merely takes more effort!