Like the comedian Jim in the last post, Manhattan Life Coach Julie Melillo moved to the big city with only a suitcase, knowing no one.
Having moved from her home state of Arizona, she had always wanted
to move somewhere else, but was terrified. Her big stretch involved answering the question — how on earth do you just pick up and move? Then one day, she decided to just do it. Though she, like Jim, knew no one in New York City, and had no apartment there, she sold all her worldly possessions, including her car and bought a plane ticket to the Big Apple. The only thing she brought with her was one small carry-on. At the time she only owned one pair of shoes.
Ladies, are you listening? It is possible!
For three weeks, she stayed in hostels for with bunk beds that hosted up to 10 strangers. It was what you could call a humbling experience. Finally, she
found her first apartment in the East Village.
It was very challenging to not know anyone there and walk the streets at night in the rain and have no idea which way was north. But overcoming those challenges — meeting lots of friends, expanding her business, finding her way around, helped her realize she can overcome any challenge she sets my mind to.
“You don’t go into an experience knowing everything,” she admits. “You learn it as you go. That gives you confidence.”
Now she lives on Wall St. with my husband whom she met in Manhattan. She uses what she learned in her ‘daily stretch’ to coach CEOs, financial traders, entrepreneurs and actors to help them cope with the intensity of their challenges and build their foundation of strength.
“I realized that anyone can become anything they’d like to,” Julie concludes. “Regardless of how terrifying or impossible it may initially seem. Anything is
And that’s the truth, ya’ll.
December 22, 2008
So I was watching Oprah’s after show on YouTube, wondering how she maintains her drive to help people live their best lives when I realized inspiring people beget inspiring people. She remains inspired by surrounding herself with amazing individuals who are up to something in life. It’s not their title that makes them important, but the will with which they live.
That’s what this blog is all about, too.
I had the distinct privilege of connecting with Simi S Nwogugu, CEO of HOD Consulting, recently. She used to work in a fast-paced job as senior director of strategy & business development at MTV Networks. She left her job after having two baby boys back to back. It was time for a change, one she realized she badly needed. Twelve-hour days at the office suddenly paled in comparison to staying home with her two young sons.
“Work-life balance will stop being a struggle once you become clear about the steps you need to take to lead the life you want to live.”
“I hired a coach to help me through my identity crisis (I’d always defined myself by the work I was doing) and fell in love with coaching. At that point, I decided to get a certificate in coaching at NYU. Thereafter, I started a coaching organization to help other executive women deal with work-life balance.”
Through her experience, she realized she prefered the more flexible lifestyle. Raising a family while applying her mind is easier when it’s on your own terms.
“I work from home on Mondays, take meetings only during 10am and 4pm on Tues-Thurs when my boys are in school and try not to do any work on Fridays so I can run household errands and plan activities for the weekend with the family.”
She admits she works more hours than before. However, because she loves what she does and can do it from anywhere (including while at Disneyworld in Florida or from the Nigerian beach in Lagos), it feels a lot less like work.
The challenge is she is only paid when she works, a a trade-off she agrees was worth it.
“Once you are able to connect with who you are,” she told me, “and why you feel you are in this world at this time and what has real meaning for you, attaining work-life balance will stop being a struggle because you will suddenly become clear about the steps you need to take to lead the life you want to live.”
Amen to that, Simi!