One powerful thing I’ve learned from my mother is taking delight in everyone I meet. While some people are more agreeable than others, there is good in everyone. Practice speaking to that goodness when you meet someone new. You might be surprised at what they have to offer.

Max Ehrmann says:

You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here.

We all have  a right to be  here. What will you do with your time?

In the time of self-loathing, we are due for some serious self-love. We are enough ~ we are more than enough!

Max Ehrmann says:

Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself.

Oftentimes we feel we have to do everything at once ~ be svelt, lovely, sparkly, efficient, joyful, reliable, punctual…the list goes on and on. Celebrate your life with kindness for yourself. When you are gentle to yourself, others will gravitate to you. Remember to let them in as you see fit and on your terms. Part of self-love is honoring your boundaries as you honor yourself.


My husband lost his job about eight years ago. For six months we didn’t know what we would do. As crazy as it sounds, I felt a lightening of spirit as I realized “Now we have been liberated to do what we truly want.” My husband cast me a quizzical look, but after many years of searching, we have truly found the reason for it all.

Everything happens for a reason, even in the worst of times. Max Ehrmann says:

Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.

While I disliked the idea of uprooting my American self and landing in a Bavarian cow town after my husband found a new job, I made lemonade, looking at the bright side of things in the darkest of moments. Nurturing the strength of spirit will help guide you when times are tough. Let it be your shining light in the storm.


With age comes wisdom. And while we may see marked changes in our physique, we benefit from an equally noticeable transformation from within. There comes a time in life when we realize residing within instead of setting our compass from without is the path to enlightenment. We become more settled. Our interior landscape is smoother.

Max Ehrmann says:

Take kindly to the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth.

Some people say aging gracefully is impossible. What a spectacular claim! Is it not with age that we become more graceful on this Earth? I may pant up the hill on my mountain bike more readily than even a few years ago. Does that make me less of a person? The years counsel us in ways youth cannot hear. It is a tremendous gift indeed.


Desiderata Days ~ Love

April 3, 2010

Love is all there is. We’ve heard this from Jesus; we hear it today from our contemporary love gurus. It is true. Love forms the bond that keeps us going every day.

Max Ehrmann says:

Especially, do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love, for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment it is perennial as the grass.

We have all been disenchanted by love interests at some point in our lives. Cynicism is merely a protective coating, like Creosote, on our souls. But you know what? It stinks, too.

Live with love and laughter!


Desiderata Days ~ YOU

April 2, 2010

Is there nothing more liberating than being around people who love you for YOU and who really see you? They’re not trying to mold you to their agenda or stuff you into a role they think you should play. They delight in your very you-ness as you delight in theirs!

Max Ehrmann says:

Be yourself.

Ah, how we sometimes cheat the world of our singularity as a matter of course. Fear-based shadows of ourselves emerge, flailing helplessly in the wind of confusion. The greatest gift we can all provide is to strip the layers of our inner onion.

Go for it! I’ll be cheering you on as you do!

Yesterday we spoke of thievery. Today we touch on heroism. While a bad apple might spoil the barrel, there are many more good apples in the bushel. It is in our nature to focus on negative events as more significant. It has to do with our survival instincts. Chances are our Cro-Magnon pals revelled less in the rainbows and ran more toward safety.

It is a modern-day luxury to revel. What a revelation!

Max Ehrmann says:

But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals, and everywhere life is full of heroism.

The guy who shows up out of nowhere to help carry your heavy suitcase up the stairs at the train station, only to have him disappear before you can say ‘thank you’; the person in line who lends you some change so you can pay your food bill; and the friend who shows up just when you need it most. There are our heroes.

Bless them.

Desiderata Days ~ Career

March 30, 2010

I don’t see work/life balance as a truism. The conversation we are really trying to have is not about balance, which implies stasis, but about alignment. Are we in alignment with our truest purpose? Are we engaging in the things that are going to get us there?

Max Ehrmann says:

Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.

I started out as a secretary in the marketing department of a large investment firm so we could have health insurance. Imagine if I had not gone with the times? I may never have shown an interest in public relations and marketing.

Delight in where you are today and know you are the master of your own ship. Be the best you can be in every moment. Learn new things and watch your life unfurl as you take new steps to change with the times.

The old saying “If you want to make God laugh, make plans” reveals how things don’t always go as we think they should. It is in our nature to be forward-thinking on some level. Delight in your accomplishments (and those of others!).

Max Ehrmann says:

Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.

As you make plans, remember they merely lay the groundwork for the action steps you will take. Whatever happens is the best possible option. The question is what will you do in response to it?

The key to making yourself miserable is to compare yourself to someone else. What a gift you are to this world! Your singularity makes you YOU.

Max Ehrmann says:

If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter; for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.

TV makeover shows are great when they enhance the real YOU. But when they mold you into someone else, you have merely changed the shell in which your constant spirit resides. Look to spirit to guide you.

The great news is we are all one anyway so as you look into the eyes of another, you will find yourself within that person, too.