Desiderata Days ~ Career

March 30, 2010

I don’t see work/life balance as a truism. The conversation we are really trying to have is not about balance, which implies stasis, but about alignment. Are we in alignment with our truest purpose? Are we engaging in the things that are going to get us there?

Max Ehrmann says:

Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.

I started out as a secretary in the marketing department of a large investment firm so we could have health insurance. Imagine if I had not gone with the times? I may never have shown an interest in public relations and marketing.

Delight in where you are today and know you are the master of your own ship. Be the best you can be in every moment. Learn new things and watch your life unfurl as you take new steps to change with the times.

The old saying “If you want to make God laugh, make plans” reveals how things don’t always go as we think they should. It is in our nature to be forward-thinking on some level. Delight in your accomplishments (and those of others!).

Max Ehrmann says:

Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.

As you make plans, remember they merely lay the groundwork for the action steps you will take. Whatever happens is the best possible option. The question is what will you do in response to it?

The key to making yourself miserable is to compare yourself to someone else. What a gift you are to this world! Your singularity makes you YOU.

Max Ehrmann says:

If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter; for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.

TV makeover shows are great when they enhance the real YOU. But when they mold you into someone else, you have merely changed the shell in which your constant spirit resides. Look to spirit to guide you.

The great news is we are all one anyway so as you look into the eyes of another, you will find yourself within that person, too.

Everyone of us has experienced a town cryer or two in our lives. They shout out at the most inopportune moments. While I spoke of tolerance in yesterday’s post, we must also protect ourselves from physical, emotional, psychological and spiritual harm.

Max Ehrmann says:

Avoid loud and aggressive persons, they are vexations to the spirit.

Sometimes the most softly spoken words are heard the loudest. How do you deal with vexatious people?

Desiderata Days ~ Listen

March 26, 2010

A large part of being a writer is listening to, then telling other people’s stories. Everybody has one. It is fascinating to delve into other people’s worlds and take a part of their essence with me on this journey.

Max Ehrmann says:

Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even to the dull and the ignorant, they too have their story.

When we share our truth, we too are revealing our narrative. Exhibit tolerance as people open up their worlds with you. You may just learn a new way of thinking that changes your own.

Max Ehrmann says:

As far as possible, without surrender, be on good terms with all persons.

We are not talking about being a people pleaser. Sometimes the kindest thing you can say is ‘no’. When you speak your truth with authenticity and grace, others will follow. They may not want to hear it or agree with you, but life is not about being in ‘yes’ with others as much as it is being in ‘yes’ with yourself.

Desiderata Days ~ Haste

March 24, 2010

Fumbling with my lipstick, I glanced over at a poem hanging on my massage therapist’s bathroom wall. “Desiderata” by Max Ehrmann (written in 1927; published in 1948) is a timeless poem with which many of us are familiar. Within the context of my power of slow conversation, it rings even more true for me.

Ergo the birth of Desiderata Days.

For each line in the poem I will blog about its meaning. I welcome your thoughts and interpretations as well. So let’s get started!

Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence.

The still voice within cannot be heard when we are shouting, or when things are shouting at us. How often do we cover ourselves with noise? Whether it is our computer screens, the television or our cell phones, we often drive ourselves to distraction.

Take a moment to pause amongst the haste in your day. What do you hear? I’d love to know.